Becoming a Mentor

Perhaps the most undervalued and under utilised asset in business today is experience. Experience helps you to make good decisions and is usually gained by making bad ones.

Too often in business the benefit of this experience is lost and not shared either within or outside of the company. This is an expensive mistake. There are many ways in which this knowledge can be harvested to help others and one such method is via mentoring.

Academics have spent many years and millions of words attempting to define mentoring and the difference between that and coaching and counselling. To the business this is of little relevance – it is the harnessing of experience which can give a business an edge over the competition that matters.

The word mentor comes from a character in Homer’s Odyssey taken over by the goddess Athena to guide a young Telemachus in his time of difficulty. In many ways this sums up the essence of a mentoring relationship. It is a helpful partnership based upon mutual trust and respect.

A mentor is a guide who can help a mentee to find correct solutions to both business problems and career issues. To work, the mentor will have both an empathy with the mentee and their business and will have encountered similar business issues in their professional life.

It is not the role of a mentor to run the mentees business, make decisions for them or line manage them. Rather that they help the mentee believe in themselves, question and challenge whilst providing guidance and encouragement. It is an excellent medium for exploring new ideas in confidence.

So, what should you look for in a good mentoring relationship?

Experience: usually the mentor is older but not always. I know of one person in his 20’s that mentors older people on the ways of the online world.

Availability: it may be great having a famous or successful person to mentor you but if they are not available to you when needed it defeats the purpose.

Focus: you need a mentor who is able to not only focus on you and what you would like to achieve, but also help you focus.

Belief: someone who believes in your potential; if they are not sold on you then they will not put in all of their effort.

Open minded: a mentor who will allow you to progress in a way that you need to progress, not necessarily in the way that they would prefer.

Positive: someone who is positive and helps keep you positive, to help you up when you fall and who cares about your success as much as you do.

Many successful business people have several mentors throughout their career helping them at different stages along the way. Sadly not all of them then act as mentors themselves. Being a mentor is a rewarding experience and should be a freely given service during a working life – not just when you are retired. If you are interested in becoming a mentor or having a mentor work with you then contact organisations such as NWES or Princes Trust who can act as impartial matching brokers.

The lonliness of the long distance runner

Being an entrepreneur, running a business, is inherently a lonely existence. Whilst you are at the centre of everything that is happening in your company and aware of changes within your industry, all too often there is no-one to turn to when making vital decisions. I equate running a business to completing a marathon – it is a long journey; at the start there are high levels of enthusiasm, excitement and anticipation; difficult challenges to encounter and overcome but there is always a goal in sight and the sense of achievement in reaching it is difficult to describe to anyone who has not run the race.

Any serious and dedicated athlete realises the need for a coach and mentor to help them reach their goals and yet in business so few entrepreneurs follow the same path. No doubt without a coach you could run a marathon but will you ever realise your true potential? Why is it, when it has been proved that businesses which take advice and support fare better than those which do not, that there is an inherent reluctance to access these extra “tools” which may give you a competitive advantage?

Perhaps it is the popular hunt for instant success that makes many people treat business like a sprint. I would argue that, in business, long term sustainability is far more important than short term glory. The current example of many banks should highlight the damage that can be done by the lack of long term planning – learn from their mistakes.

So how can you help combat the feeling of isolation and tone your entrepreneurial abilities ready for the marathon ahead? Accessing help is easier than you would expect – finding quality support is slightly harder.

Firstly do not get hung up on the definitions of advice, mentoring, support, incubation etc – let the academics worry about such minutiae – most people want a combination of all of these at different points in their business life. You need your own personal “coach”. Source someone who you can trust; they should be independent, impartial, experienced and most of all approachable.

The next step is to use them effectively. They are not there to run your company but to help you develop your skills, hone your decision making and to bounce ideas off. Their role is essentially passive and most of the effort should be made by you but through their guidance you will develop solutions to business issues.

So being an entrepreneur can be lonely at times but those who seek out help and support along the way will develop faster and most importantly reach their goal before their competitors beat them to it.

How do you start such a search? Scour your networks to find someone who meets the above criteria or contact a leading independent business support organisation such as NWES who can help you.